This is a really important question and one that does not have a simple answer. To know that answer, youll likely have to ask yourselves several more questions. The first thing to think about is Why am I thinking of having sex? Is it because of peer pressure? To impress your friends? To keep up with the crowd?

Sex should never be just because. So much of what is gossiped about at school or work is just that - gossip. What does your partner think about this? Do they want to have sex too? Do they feel like they are ready? Are you and your partner able to talk openly about your feelings about sex? Do you feel pressured by your partner? You should never feel forced to have sex with anyone. Although sex is great with the right person at the right time, there is always the possible consequence of pregnancy. Have you had an open discussion about birth control and pregnancy? Have you both been tested for sexually transmitted infections? If not, are you prepared to reduce your risk of STIs by the use of a condom?

As you can see, there are a lot of things should be discussed and understood before having sex. Sex can be a fantastic experience between you and your partner, but its still a big decision and one that shouldnt be taken too lightly.

We call this discrepant libidos. This is a common cause for relationship problems, particularly for people who have trouble communicating with their partner. It can be a win/ lose situation that inevitably turns into a lose/lose situation. That is, the partner who has the higher drive feels hurt and rejected when sex does not happen and the partner with lower drive feels pressured and resentful at having to perform when they don’t feel up to it. The best solution is usually for both partners to reach a compromise. The higher-drive partner should understand that each person has their own natural sex drive and should not feel rejected when their drive doesn’t fall in line with their partner’s. Finding non-sexual romantic ways to boost their partner’s libido may also prove helpful. Dealing with the libidinal feelings by masturbating or redirecting is another approach. For the partner with the lower drive, it is important to understand that their partner is not trying to pressure them. Responding to some of the non-sexual cues may help enhance their sex drive. Many times, simply being with their partner, holding them while they masturbate or masturbating them is an acceptable alternative that doesn’t require full-blown sexual involvement. If there is a large discrepancy, such as one partner wanting sex every night of the week and the other only once a week, they could agree to engage in sex twice or three times a week. Often this requires more of an attitude change than a physical change