Am I Normal?
Am I too interested in sex? Am I not interested enough? Are my fantasies unusual? Is my penis large enough? Is my clitoris in the right place? There’s no end to the questions you might ask yourself about your sexuality, but most of them tend to break down to one single question: sexually, am I normal?
The answer: everybody’s different, and different is normal. In fact, when it comes to sex and sexuality, there really is no such thing as “normal”. Just as teenagers grow to different heights, they grow into people with unique sexual identities. It’s normal to be very interested in sex and it’s normal to be only mildly interested in sex. It’s normal to want to try new and different things and it’s normal to just be happy with more of the same. It’s normal to have very romantic fantasies and it’s normal to have very sexual ones. The best advice we can offer you is this: just try to enjoy your sexuality. Don’t judge it and don’t compare it to other people’s sexuality or what you think you think you “should” be experiencing.
Of course, certain situations may call for counseling or for medical help. If a boy’s voice hasn’t deepened or a girl hasn’t started menstruating by very late in adolescence, for instance, a hormone problem might be the culprit. In such a case, you might want to see a doctor. In other cases, counseling may also help uncover the cause of any sexual problems you might be having.
But in almost every case, what you’re experiencing is perfectly normal - for you. Observe and enjoy.